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Olweus Anti-Bullying (Stand By Me)

Olweus Bullying Prevention Program: A systems change program, Designed for all students (K-12), Preventative and responsiv, Focused on changing norms and restructuring the school setting, Research based.

“Bullying is when someone repeatedly and on purpose says or does mean or hurtful things to another person who has a hard time defending himself or herself.”

OLWEUS ANTI-BULLYING RULES:

  1. We will not bully others.
  2. We will try to help students who are bullied.
  3. We will try to include students who are left out.
  4. If we know that someone is being bullied, we will tell an adult at school and adult at home.

ROOSEVELT ANTI-BULLYING RULES:

  1. At Roosevelt my friends Stand by Me. We do not bully others.
  2. We will try to help other students who are being targeted, hurt or bullied.
  3. We will make a point to include Students who are easily left out.
  4. When we know that somebody is being targeted, hurt or bullied, we will tell an adult at school and an adult at home.

Roosevelt administrators, teachers and staff are committed to working with families to support the development of the whole child. A strong connection between school and home is best way to support children to become successful students, friends and navigators of the world. We appreciate your support in discussing the school rules and expectations with your child and hope that this handbook is helpful to you in engaging in a conversation with your child about your family values. Please sign the contract below after reviewing this handbook with your child and return it to your child’s classroom teacher.

RULE 1: WE WILL NOT BULLY OTHERS
Bullying is peer abuse:

“Bullying is when someone repeatedly and on purpose says or does mean or hurtful things to another person who has a hard time defending himself or herself.”

Rules also apply to parents/teachers/staff.

WHAT ARE THE COMPONENTS OF BULLYING? 

  • The intent to harm.
  • Involves an aggressive behavior or threat of further aggression.
  • An imbalance of power or strength.
  • Typically involves a pattern of behavior repeated over time.

TYPES OF BULLYING

DIRECT:
PHYSICAL – THE USE OF FORCE TO PHYSICALLY HARM OTHERS.
VERBAL – THE USE OF WORDS (THREATS, NAME-CALLING, TEASING, ETC.) TO TAUNT AND HARASS OTHERS.
CYBER-BULLYING – THE USE OF TECHNOLOGY AS A TOOL TO BE RELATIONALLY AGGRESSIVE.

INDIRECT:
RELATIONAL – THE USE OF RELATIONSHIPS TO DIRECTLY OR INDIRECTLY MANIPULATE AND HURT OTHERS. INCLUDES RUMORS, EXCLUSION, THIS CAN ALSO BE DONE THROUGH CYBER-BULLYING

What is the difference between RUDE, MEAN, and BULLYING?
When someone says or does something unintentionally hurtful and they do it once, that’s RUDE. When someone says or does something intentionally hurtful and they do it once, that’s MEAN. When someone says or does something intentionally hurtful and they keep doing it- even when you tell them to stop or show them that you’re upset – that’s BULLYING.

PSAhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=75gsCJaXTnQ

THE “BULLY” – WHAT DOES A BULLY LOOK LIKE:

Myth: children who bully are loners

Fact: Bullies are usually popular and/or the leaders of a group

Myth: Children who bully have low self-esteem

Fact: Bullies usually have an inflated idea of their own self-importance and believe that they are better then others

Myth: Bullies learn their behavior at home.

Fact: Majority of bullies have overly permissive to parents and lack of parental supervision.

CHARACTERS OF CHILDREN WHO BULLY OTHERS:
Positive attitude toward violence and the use of violent means, Strong needs to dominate and subdue other students to get their own way, Impulsive and easily angered, Show little empathy toward students who are bullied, Are involved in other anti-social or rule breaking activities, Are typically stronger than boys in general and particularly the students they bully, Some are highly skilled socially and good at ingratiating themselves with teachers and adults.

Children who bully are more likely: To get into frequent fights, Get injured a lot, Steal, Vandalize property, Be truant and drop out of school, Report poor academic achievement, Usually have a negative opinion of school.

Those who bully others in middle school are 4 times as likely to have 3 more convictions by the age of 24.

WHY DO CHILDREN BULLY?
Have strong needs for power (and negative) dominance.

Find satisfaction causing injury and suffering to other students.

Are often rewarded in some way for their behavior.

THE BYSTANDERS
Bystanders may feel Afraid, Powerless to Change the Situation, Guilty for not Acting. This results in diminished empathy for bullied students over time.

CHARACTERISTICS OF CHILDREN BEING BULLIED
Cautious, sensitive, quiet, withdrawn and shy; Can be anxious, insecure, unhappy and have low self-esteem; Are depressed and engage in suicidal ideation much more often than peers; Often do not a single good friend and relate better to adults than peers; Physically weaker than their peers; Can be popular.

WHAT HAPPENS TO A KID WHO FEELS BULLIED?
LONELY, LOWER SELF-ESTEEM, DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY, MISSES SCHOOL AND LOWER GRADES, ILLNESS (SOMATIZATION), SUICIDE IDEATION AND/OR SUICIDE

RULE #3: WE WILL TRY TO INCLUDE STUDENTS WHO ARE LEFT OUT
This would include children at higher risk of being bullied: Children with disabilities, special needs, and health problem, Children who are obese, and Children who are LGBT.

RULE #4: IF WE KNOW SOMEONE IS BEING BULLIED, WE WILL TELL AN ADULT AT HOME AND AT SCHOOL
In a healthy school climate, Bullying creates a:
Climate of fear and disrespect, Interferes with student learning. Students both the bullied and bystanders feel insecure, unsafe and do not like school as much, May feel unsafe due to lack of care and control from supervising adults.

For the larger community:
Risk management for the school/legal ramifications. Roosevelt statistics and results pending.

STAND BY ME IS FOR EVERYONE… Classroom, School, Individual, Community, and Parents!

WHY ADDRESS BULLYING AT SUCH A YOUNG AGE?
Children who bully when they are young and the behavior does not get addressed/corrected tend to continue bullying into middle school and high school …

Bullies more likely to have a criminal record by age of 24.

Bullying = violation of civil and criminal laws.

Physical bullying = assault

Gender bullying = sexual harassment, date rape, domestic violence

Intimidating for gain = extortion

Rumor/lies = defamation of character

Sexting = child pornography

WHAT WILL ROOSEVELT DO?
Develop school-wide/district rules against bullying

Class meetings

Environment

Parent Meetings

Accountable and active reports of bullying

INTERVENTION WITH THE VICTIM
Ensure the victim feels safe, if they are not, take steps to collaboratively problem-solve. Inform the victim of their rights as a community member to be treated with respect, dignity, and equality. Empower the victim to converse with the offender about why the language or behavior was offensive or oppressive.

INTERVENTION WITH THE OFFENDER
Ensure that the offender understands that their words and actions have both impact and consequences. Ensure that the offender understands what those impacts and consequences are for them and for their victim. Hold the offender accountable for restoration of the victim’s and the community’s status before the offense, to the greatest possible extent.

INTERVENTION DOs
Do deal with the situation immediately while the acts and facts are fresh.

Do confirm that the particular type of abuse is hurtful and harmful and will not be tolerated so that the message to the offender is loud and clear.

Do value everyone’s feelings by listening carefully to all involved. There might be some pain and hurt inside the offender too.

Do take those individuals aside and discuss the incident. Open dialogue, handled safely, can be invaluable to repairing relationships or neutralizing retributions.

Do use it as a “teachable moment” if appropriate, so all students learn what is acceptable and what not in your community and why.

INTERVENTION DONTs
Don’t ignore discriminatory behaviors. Silence implies consent. Unchecked behavior will repeat itself again and again.

Don’t be immobilized by fear. If you need help consult with another authority figure to create a team effort. Not taking action can endanger kids and make classroom unsafe.

Don’t overreact. How you handle the situation will influence how the individual involved handle the situation too.

Don’t impose consequences before finding out exactly what happened from all involved.

There is always a broader circumstance with the participants in the incident.

Don’t embarrass either party publicly. Do you best to maintain discretion as much as possible to avoid exacerbating shame, guilt or embarrassment.

Don’t assume the incident is isolated. It may unfortunately be the tip of the iceberg. Be inquisitive.

What can you do as Parents?
Talk to your kids, Know their friends, Look for change in behavior (health concerns), Talk to teachers, ask about social behaviors not only academics, What can you model?, Create a network of parents, be each others ears and eyes, Ask for help … do not isolate you questions, worries, concerns.

Procedures for Discipline:
Discipline handled by classroom teacher when possible, teacher will contact the parent regarding incident and consequence if behavior continues, teacher parent conference will be scheduled.

Students will be sent to the office when teacher deems it necessary based on the severity or reoccurrence of the behavior and the interventions that have been attempted.

School staff will use their professional judgement to determine the level of discipline required.

School staff will use progressive discipline based on the level of infraction and/or number of referrals to determine an appropriate consequence.

Staff members will talk directly to students to explain why the behavior is inappropriate and suggest better choices. Staff will reference Cool Tools and Stand By Me/Olweus and the Character Book of the Month to ensure better choices in the future.

Levels of Behavior Infractions:
Red: Immediate Office Referral

Orange: Handled at the Teacher/Staff level with discipline referral on file and signed by parent.

Yellow: Handled at the Teacher/Staff level documentation is suggested.

Office Referral Consequences:

First Referral: Conference with Assistant Principal

Second Referral: Removal from recess or lunch and parent notification

Third Referral: Parent phone call and conference

Fourth Referral: In School Suspension – Buddy Class

Fifth Referral: Out of School Suspension